Thursday, June 29, 2006

Little Black Curly Hair

Sometimes I think of something that I want to write about and I make a note in a journal.
I imagine it's kind of like m.lady's post its and notes that she has stuffed in pockets.
Some are phrases that came to me or just a word to remind me of something or possible titles to stories.

Here's some notes I've written recently:

Life on an Ant Farm

Touch

The night I was rejected

Journey songs at Happy Hour

He waves like he is gesturing "Come here"

Breaking up and ex-friends

Midgets on the train.

And my most recent jotted down phrase…. Little black curly hair.

I laughed when I read that. I was on the el and looked like a lunatic. But of course it reminded me of what I was going to write about.

Last Thursday night I spent five hours sitting on the runway at LaGuardia. That does not include taxing time or flight time, that's the time that the plane pulled over and waited…and waited…and waited. There were storms in Ohio and Pennsylvania so all traffic headed west was blocked.

When I first sat in my tightly compact window seat, I noticed, lovingly resting just under the window, a little black curly hair. I recoiled in horror. But there is no room to recoil in a couch-budget-airline sit with a larger than average business man sitting next you.

I'm a fidgeter. In my defense, it's not because I can't just sit still. It's because I have arthritic joints (I've always had them - since I was a toddler). So when I am sitting in an airplane seat, I cross my right leg over my left, then ten minutes later, my left over my right, I try sitting crosslegged, I try sitting with my legs not crossed, I shift and move every five to ten minutes.

I read a great book and for a short time was engrossed in it and almost oblivious to the sitting still in an airless can for hours. Then, being attention span challenged, I lost interest in the great book. And my hips had locked into an arthritically painful position. I closed my book and tried to strectch out my legs straight and raise myself off the seat. Then dropped quickly once I remembered the little black curly hair. The larger than average sized business man next me turned his head slightly, trying discreetly to look at me as he wondered what the hell kind of spasm I was having.

I was relieved, and repulsed to see that the little black curly hair was still in tact, waiting patiently in it's spot just below the window.

I flipped through a magazine.

I called my stepmom, whispering in to my cell phone, trying as hard as possible to have the semblance of a private conversation. While on the phone, I curled towards the window, watching other planes roll down the runway, while we continued to stand still.

When I got off the phone, I checked again, it was still there, the little black curly hair.

The two men in my row stood up and went to the bathroom. I decided it was probably best that I go then as well. Plus my stomach was crying out since I hadn't eaten since lunch time. The bathrooms exhibited the strain of being used frequently over the several hours we sat on the runway. I asked the flight attendant if there was ANY food to eat. Between bites of her peanuts she said No. I eyed her, and then the bag of peanuts and said, There's NOTHING to eat? With her mouthful she said Nothing.

I crawled back into my window seat. There it was, the little black curly hair, hanging on for dear life just below the window.

Finally, finally the plane took off.

I was able to get back into my book. I distractedly read for the rest of the flight. Until right before we landed. I turned off the readers light, plugged into my Ipod and listened to Wilco while we landed. The lights came up, the people sprang off their feet only to stand still, cramped into place until finally we could deplane. As I pulled my bag out from under the seat, I looked again, and there it still was. The little black curly hair. It silently bid me farewell.

I was finally home.

Tuesday, June 27, 2006

Like an old friend.


I first read Sandra Cisernos (Woman Hollering Creek) two years ago. I couldn't believe I'd never read her before, or that I hadn't even heard of her writing. She's pretty amazing. This week I picked up a copy of House on Mango Street, and wow. Now I remember how incredible her writing is …

Her's an example of what she can do:
My Name

In English my name means hope. In Spanish it means too many letters. It means sadness, it means waiting. It is like the number nine. A muddy color. It is the Mexican records my father plays on Sunday mornings when he is shaving, songs like sobbing.

It was my great-grandmother's name and now it is mine. She was a horse woman too, born like me in the Chinese year of the horse--which is supposed to be bad luck if you're born female-but I think this is a Chinese lie because the Chinese, like the Mexicans, don't like their women strong.

My great-grandmother. I would've liked to have known her, a wild, horse of a woman, so wild she wouldn't marry. Until my great-grandfather threw a sack over her head and carried her off. Just like that, as if she were a fancy chandelier. That's the way he did it.

And the story goes she never forgave him. She looked out the window her whole life, the way so many women sit their sadness on an elbow. I wonder if she made the best with what she got or was she sorry because she couldn't be all the things she wanted to be. Esperanza. I have inherited her name, but I don't want to inherit her place by the window.

At school they say my name funny as if the syllables were made out of tin and hurt the roof of your mouth. But in Spanish my name is made out of a softer something, like silver, not quite as thick as sister's name Magdalena--which is uglier than mine. Magdalena who at least- -can come home and become Nenny. But I am always Esperanza. would like to baptize myself under a new name, a name more like the real me, the one nobody sees. Esperanza as Lisandra or Maritza or Zeze the X. Yes. Something like Zeze the X will do.

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"as if the syllables were made out of tin and hurt the roof of your mouth." I love that phrase …

Go read her today …read her now!!!

Monday, June 26, 2006

There's no place like home

New York will always be New York and will always feel like home.

But being back in Chicago …well it's good to be home. The Second City is now my home, and New York will always be my second home.

Went sailing on Saturday with my Aunt, two uncles, a family friend and my cousin. Sunday, had brunch with friends, and then cleaned my apartment listening to the music and cheers of the pride parade … I knew I lived in Boystown but didn't realize the parade went right down my corner.

Still and all … there's no place like home.

Wednesday, June 21, 2006

commintment phobia?


Last night, I walked from 40th and b'way to 30th and 3rd.

Ten blocks south and 4 avenues east.

I realized that for me, New York is crammed with memories.

Old jobs, bad dates, drunken happy hours.

I realized … from 2000 till 2005 ...I worked for three different companies, in four different offices.

Went on three blind dates and one (gasp) match.com date.

Had two "relationships."

Had numerous undefined quasi-dating somethings.

Collected unemployment two different summers.

Lived in two apartments.

Drank in thousands of bars, ate in hundreds (thousands?) of restaurants.

Kissed …how many boys?

Made a priceless number of friends

The only consistent thing in my life has been my cell phone number.

Is that circumstance? Or my commitment phobia that the only thing consistent in my life is something that is wireless and mobile?

More on the 6: Mole people (otherwise known as anyone who rides the subway)

When a good friend moved to New York (two years before I did) she said she was amazed by how New Yorkers would exit the subways and just know what direction they were going in…they were mole people.

Riding my old commute … I've noticed …I'm a mole person …even after having moved ten months ago … I know how many cars from the front of the train I need to be so that when I get off at Grand Central … I'm in front of the stairs to go down to the 7 train ..and when I get on the 7 train…I get on two cars from the front …so that when I exit, I'm at the right exit that puts me on the corner of my office building.

I didn't even realize that I was methodically choosing which subway car to ride.

Of course, upon reflection, I do it on the el also … if I get on the last car on the brown line … I'm at the exit at the Merchandise Mart stop that puts me on the corner of Kinzie …and therefore down the block from my office.

Tuesday, June 20, 2006

on the 6











i lived on the upper east side from August 2000 until August 2005. And before that, i still spent a substianial amount of time on the east side (upper and and especially lower).

there were days (weeks) i felt like i was on the 6 train more than anywhere else in the city.

it's been a bit of a trip down memory lane this week, riding the 4/5/6 into grand central.

I LOVE New York ... but the El makes for a more pleasant view...

The best kind of conference calls...

I'm in New York this week ... working from my old stomping grounds in our new york office. I just had the best conference call..the kind when you call in and your co-worker/friend in California is on the call, and your manager who is sits right next to you is on the call and you spend ten minutes goofing off and gossiping waiting for everyone else that needs to be on the call ... only to be stood up.

It's like going to class and seeing a note that class has been cancelled.

Proud to be an Episcopalian this week:

ABC News: Episcopalians Reject Ban on Gay Bishops

NYTIMES: Woman is named Episcopalian Leader


Monday, June 19, 2006

Dictionary.com/Word of the Day Archive/transmogrify

This sounds like a made up word:

Dictionary.com/Word of the Day Archive/transmogrify

transmogrify \trans-MOG-ruh-fy\, transitive verb:
To change into a different shape or to transform, often with bizarre or humorous effect.

A washing machine transmogrified into a guitar.
-- Adrian Searle, "Come, friendly pigeons", The Guardian, March 16, 2000

For the impulsive sin of turning to look back at the funereal pyre of Sodom and Gomorrah, Lot's wife is transmogrified into a pillar of salt as she flees the inferno.
-- Elizabeth Wurtzel, Bitch: In Praise of Difficult Women

Roast chicken is still roast chicken whether you label it haute cuisine, bourgeois cuisine or country cooking; even calling it "poulet roti" will not transmogrify this simple bird.
-- Jacques Pepin, "The Chicken Dinner, Both Humble and Noble", New York Times, January 4, 1989

Wednesday, June 14, 2006

Advice on being interviewed

Answer the question that your interviewer asks you.

If they say, what was your major in college, don't talk about every class you liked and didn't like, and all the dreams you had as a child. Tell the interviewer the major you studied.

get to the point.

and when the interviewer asks again, after your rambling, wandering response that doesn't answer the direct question ... answer the question, do not carry on with meandering comments on the education system.

answer the question.

Tuesday, June 13, 2006

Summer musings and remembrances

Fish in the water, jumping. The ping, splish sound.

Lawn mowers.

Sprinklers

Honeysuckles flowers

Crickets

Warm tar on bare feet.

Water logged ears, goose bumps … hugging my towel after swim team practice.

Chlorine in my eyes, water in my ears.

Fireflies.

Riding my bike from the cul-de-sac down the hill to the end of the block.

Oolie goolie land.

Playing kick the can at night.

Tents in the backyard.

Lying on the grass, looking at the moon.

Steamed crabs and block parties.

Sparklers.

Rolling in waves, sand stuck in my bathing suit.

Peeling the skin from my sunburnt nose.

Digging my toe into sand looking for the slick grey slimy discs of sandollars.

Frogs.

Flav-o-ice popsicles.

Ice cream truck tunes.

Evenings eating dinner on the deck, citronella candles lighting everything.

Paper Moon


Last night the moon was perfect round confetti. It was larger than the lake and sat on the sears tower, then hid behind the el and chased us home.



Monday, June 12, 2006

Admiral Bear - My Other Love

Mackey is not the only love in my life. Mackey has a big brother named Bear.

Bear is the great protector. While Mackey is goofy and fun, Bear is regal and dignified.

Bear used to be a firehouse dog in Minnesota. But his owner passed away, and eventually he was 'rescued' by my friends boyfriend.

The friends boyfriend has a boat. Bear on the boat is quite a sight to see. He raises his nose into the wind, letting his ears flap back. He watches the Lakes shoreline, taking in Navy Pier and the skyscrapers, and he shakes his head at Mackey, who unsure of what the whole boating thing is all about, hides behinds his dads legs, or hides behind Bear.

Admiral Bear ... the strong silent dependable type. He also holds a dear place in my heart as Mackey does.

Monday, June 05, 2006

My new boyfriend (Sorry Murray)

Yes, it’s true. I have a new love. He’s tall and gangly, very eager, and has an oral fixation. He chews on flips flops, cameras and twigs. He’s afraid of trucks, motorcycles and buses. He loves long walks on the beach and playing catch.

His name is Mackey.



I used to have a boyfriend named Murray. Murray was also tall and lanky. (this isn't actually Murray - but he looks like him) Murray is rambunctious and sweet like Mackey, but Murray lives in New York and Mackey lives in Chicago. Plus, my love for Mackey is strong. And he loves to nap with his nose on my feet.

It’s true love.

Thursday, June 01, 2006

the L ...again

the horses on Orleans St ... haven't been there this week. too hot? I miss catching the glimpse of them as I ride by on the brown line.

Speaking of hair cuts

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